There is no doubt that every family is dysfunctional (even the ones who look like they have a perfect family, DON’T) and has some drama in their lives. For instance, sisters constantly bickering and trying to out-do the other, or a father who is only invested in his son if he is athletic and successful, or a mother who is over critical of her daughters. Some form of drama has effected our lives one way or another. Maybe a friend you know has runaway from home, or is cutting themselves to escape the pain, or does drugs to numb the mind and body to escape. You are not alone.
Did you know…
Half of all runaways left home because of a disagreement with a parent or guardian.
Please know that are other ways to deal with family drama than running away or hurting yourself by cutting or drugs. It is agreed that a certain amount of time away from the conflict can help calm people down or help put things in perspective, but don’t let that time span increase too much. Sometimes that can do more harm than good.
Here are a few suggestions to dealing with family drama. One of the first few things to try is family mediation. Usually these services don’t cost much, if anything, and is set up with everyone in mind. Typically there is someone around your age that is advocating (aka speaking for/supporting) you and there is someone there to advocate for your parent(s)/guardian(s) while you both try to sort out your differences, with some extra help, of course. If you want more information on family mediation, stop by Youth Outreach and we can help you set up an appointment with one in our county. If you aren’t able to find a place that offers family mediation, you can always talk to a school counselor or teacher.
It is also important to look at those individuals in our lives and think about where they came from, what childhood they may have had, and what life experiences they endured. By doing this, you are able to see why they are acting a certain way or doing a certain something. It may help you put things into perspective, although it may not be easy.
Depending on the situation, you can always set up a board that allows everyone to write down messages on things that are bothering them so that nothing builds up and explodes
Write down your feelings in a journal. This will help sort out feelings you have and really help you figure out exactly what you want to say.
Go workout or get involved in some extracurricular activity that can help you express your frustration or emotions. This may look like joining an art class or theater class or if you need something that you can really take your anger out on, join a sports club. The point of this is to get your aggression out, but not on others.
These are just a few ideas on how to deal with family drama before taking more extreme measures. If you have any, please post them because they could help someone else!