What is a Healthy Relationship? People have differing opinions on what a healthy relationship looks like however, one thing everyone can agree on is that a healthy relationship is not abusive in any way, shape or form. According to the website www.healthychildren.org these are signs you are in an unhealthy relationship:
Lack of respect
You “go along” with something even if you think it is not right. You feel bad about what happens when you are together.
Being held back
Your partner does not let you succeed in school, or you are made to feel guilty about doing things that interest you.
You may hear, “If you love me, I need to know where you are.” Your partner does not care about your friends.
Feeling “crazy in love”
One or both of you calls the other all the time. You feel your partner is possessive and smothering.
Getting blamed for your partner’s problems
You hear, “This is all your fault.”
Feeling jealous most of the time
A little bit of jealousy is normal. A lot of jealousy, or allowing jealousy to control what goes on between the two of you, will hurt the relationship.
Trying to change the other person’s behavior
One of you tells the other, “My way or no way.”
Unhealthy relationships can become healthy ones with mutual respect and communication. But, if you can’t have respect for each other the relationship may need to end. Sometimes these problems increase into more severe issues. If that happens it may look something like this:
Screaming, swearing, bullying, or calling each other names is never okay.
Pushing, Shoving, Hitting, or Kicking
Trying to Control the Other Person’s Behavior; Forced Sex
You always have the right to refuse attention or affection.
If one of you does not get your way, a threat is made to hurt either the other person or yourself.
Breaking or Hitting Objects during an Argument
If your relationship is crossing the line, the behavior needs to stop right away or the relationship needs to end. If you are having trouble ending a relationship, seek the help of an adult who cares about your well-being.
We now know what an unhealthy relationship looks like, as well as signs of something more severe. According to www.healthychildren.org this is what a healthy relationship is about:
Respecting each other
Knowing that you make each other better people
Sharing common interests, but having outside friends and activities too
Settling disagreements peacefully and with respect
Both people in a relationship should be happy and supportive of each other. If you would like to learn more about healthy relationships, dating and other topics of interest, visit www.healthychildren.org. Are you having problems in a relationship and would like someone to talk to? You can call or stop by Youth Outreach to chat with someone about your situation; 1.866.538.8023.